SILENCE IS GOLDEN-OR LEADEN

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Term Paper Title	SILENCE IS GOLDEN-OR LEADEN
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SILENCE IS GOLDEN-OR LEADEN
When men use silence it is considered golden because though this ruse the men maintain the position of power.  However when woman use the same behavior this is deemed a drain on their perceived power and therefore seems  leaden to them, weight them down.  One side of this double standard is shown in both Mirra Komarovsky's study Blue Collar Marriage and Jack Sattel's novel Fear of Flying.  In both of these pieces the man's silence is seen as being dominant.  Speaking of Mirra's study the author says " …wives interviewed said they talked more than their husbands…Yet there is no question but that these husbands are "dominant" in their marriages.  In one scene from Sattel's novel the wife says "Oh come on, Bennett, you're making me furious.  Please tell me.  Please."  The husbands continuance is "(He gives the words singly like little gifts.  Like hard little turds.)"What was it about that scene that got me?""

"I'M SORRY, I'M NOT APOLOGIZING"
Because some women do not naturally balk at risking a one-down position from apologizing there is a greater risk of being misinterpreted .  Exemplified in a teacher/principal exchange over the expulsion of an incorrigible student.  The teacher said that she was sorry meaning that she was "sorry to hear that." however this was interpreted to mean that she was possibly at fault. A twelve year old Japanese girl upon her first attempt to write a consoling letter after the passing away of her grandfather in Japan found that saying she was sorry could be interpreted an admittance of guilt of her grandfather's death.

"PLEASE DON'T ACCEPT MY APOLOGY"
Upon apologizing women expect the balance of social status to be preserved in a exchange by a deflecting of an apology.  This speaks to the "difference between ritual and literal uses of language."  Here typified by an exchange between women and her male boss when she apologized for some public rude behavior, he promptly and admittedly rudely accepted her "apology"!

WOMEN ADAPT T...

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